Let's Talk: Loyalty | How I See It & Why Not Many People Have It
Today I wanted to talk about something that is pretty different from make up and fashion, but that is still linked to the concept of beauty, but more like inner beauty: loyalty. This is more like a stream of consciousness of mines, but it is something which I have thought about a lot in these days.
Today I keep thinking about this philosophical feature because I realised that it is not something that we all respect, and that we all even want - it is a concept that may sound so easy and basic, but it is actually really fragile and unique, and not everyone is able to use or expect it correctly.
Loyalty is when you love someone so much, that only the thought of hurting them or causing them pain, hurts you right back, whether is a boy, a girl, a friend or a relative. It's when you feel so into the relationship - again, a love relationship, a friendship and so on - that you would never dare to do anything that would compromise it, because you fear to lose that person. Why? Because you care about them. The best kinds of relationships are built over loyalty, it is the base of the whole wall, or house or building - you can't build anything without it, from the base to the roof.
Obviously, it is not only about giving loyalty, it's also about receiving it - but it is never simple to know how much loyalty we should ask for.
I think this is a complicated concept to put into words, because it's not about the quantity, it is more about the quality of the loyalty that we want and should receive. It may sound weird, but I strongly believe that it is this way. Let me explain to you with an example: quantity of loyalty is when someone does many things to make you happy, so many things that it almost becomes regular, kinda like a rule to follow; quality is when someone doesn't respect some specific rules that seem like they have to be followed, but it is when in specific and important gestures someone shows you their loyalty, without you asking them to do it.
Quantity is more about feeling like you have to do that;
Quality is more about wanting to do that.
What if we find out someone doesn't have the same sense of loyalty as we do?
We would be very upset about it, but we can't really do anything. For as simple and basic this may seem, loyalty is actually about personal decisions and life patterns.
What if we do things are against our sense of loyalty?
If we end up finding ourself doing things that are against our sense of loyalty, it means we still have a sense of loyalty in ourselves, but we lack the strenght to follow it. A lack of loyalty can be due to several factors, let's think about a basic situation - a love relationship. There are a boy and a girl, that have been happily together for a couple of years, but he one day ends up cheating on her. Why? He doesn't know. With who? With some girl, maybe from work, maybe a friend. Was it an accident? No, a lack of loyalty is never an accident, because of the lack of strenght. Was it just a one-time thing? It can be, but in most cases one-time things are never really a thing, because - if we have been weak enough to fall for it the first time, why shouldn't we be weaker to fall for it again? Maybe because we realised we have done the wrong thing, or because we are scared of the other person's reaction? Though, these factors still didn't stop us the first time.
I'm not saying that since the boy cheated on the girl, he is destinied to do it again and again, in fact, by an objective point of view, it can be helpful to understand a few things. If the boy did that, it's because he didn't really truly madly deeply love his girlfriend, so now the real question is - what stopped the boy from truly loving his girlfriend? What stopped him from being loyal to her?
I'd also say that loyalty is always followed by maturity. If we can't be loyal - in specific situations or in most situations -, we have to have the maturity to admit it, and take our own responsabilities. No more We are young , It's normal for us to do so , Everybody does that, we have to act mature on that, as the grown up people we are, or that we show we are.
Thanks for reading,
- The Golden Daisy, xxx
Today I keep thinking about this philosophical feature because I realised that it is not something that we all respect, and that we all even want - it is a concept that may sound so easy and basic, but it is actually really fragile and unique, and not everyone is able to use or expect it correctly.
Loyalty is when you love someone so much, that only the thought of hurting them or causing them pain, hurts you right back, whether is a boy, a girl, a friend or a relative. It's when you feel so into the relationship - again, a love relationship, a friendship and so on - that you would never dare to do anything that would compromise it, because you fear to lose that person. Why? Because you care about them. The best kinds of relationships are built over loyalty, it is the base of the whole wall, or house or building - you can't build anything without it, from the base to the roof.
Obviously, it is not only about giving loyalty, it's also about receiving it - but it is never simple to know how much loyalty we should ask for.
I think this is a complicated concept to put into words, because it's not about the quantity, it is more about the quality of the loyalty that we want and should receive. It may sound weird, but I strongly believe that it is this way. Let me explain to you with an example: quantity of loyalty is when someone does many things to make you happy, so many things that it almost becomes regular, kinda like a rule to follow; quality is when someone doesn't respect some specific rules that seem like they have to be followed, but it is when in specific and important gestures someone shows you their loyalty, without you asking them to do it.
Quantity is more about feeling like you have to do that;
Quality is more about wanting to do that.
What if we find out someone doesn't have the same sense of loyalty as we do?
We would be very upset about it, but we can't really do anything. For as simple and basic this may seem, loyalty is actually about personal decisions and life patterns.
What if we do things are against our sense of loyalty?
If we end up finding ourself doing things that are against our sense of loyalty, it means we still have a sense of loyalty in ourselves, but we lack the strenght to follow it. A lack of loyalty can be due to several factors, let's think about a basic situation - a love relationship. There are a boy and a girl, that have been happily together for a couple of years, but he one day ends up cheating on her. Why? He doesn't know. With who? With some girl, maybe from work, maybe a friend. Was it an accident? No, a lack of loyalty is never an accident, because of the lack of strenght. Was it just a one-time thing? It can be, but in most cases one-time things are never really a thing, because - if we have been weak enough to fall for it the first time, why shouldn't we be weaker to fall for it again? Maybe because we realised we have done the wrong thing, or because we are scared of the other person's reaction? Though, these factors still didn't stop us the first time.
I'm not saying that since the boy cheated on the girl, he is destinied to do it again and again, in fact, by an objective point of view, it can be helpful to understand a few things. If the boy did that, it's because he didn't really truly madly deeply love his girlfriend, so now the real question is - what stopped the boy from truly loving his girlfriend? What stopped him from being loyal to her?
I'd also say that loyalty is always followed by maturity. If we can't be loyal - in specific situations or in most situations -, we have to have the maturity to admit it, and take our own responsabilities. No more We are young , It's normal for us to do so , Everybody does that, we have to act mature on that, as the grown up people we are, or that we show we are.
Thanks for reading,
- The Golden Daisy, xxx
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